SO KATE

Why hello there lovers.  Gawd, I don't even know where to start.  So many things happened in such a short period of time.  Not to mention I drank a lot this past weekend so it's all kinda fuzzy wuzzy.  To start, I guess I'll talk about this new adventure I am taking on with my partner in crime and all things random, LC.  Basically we started, what she likes to call, a girl gang appropriately named Ladies Who Booze.  You must all think I am a raging alcoholic at this point.  No I am not and that is not something to joke about.  But I do love to kick back once in a while with a drink in hand after a rough day at work.  And I figured, I'm sure there are other lady friends that do the same.  I started thinking about the term "ladies who lunch", which I am not too proud to say I Wikipedia'd.  

"Ladies who lunch is a phrase often used to describe well-off, well-dressed women who meet for social luncheons, usually during the working week. Typically, the women involved are married and non-working. Normally the lunch is in a high-class restaurant, but could also take place in a department store during a shopping trip. Sometimes the lunch takes place under the pretext of raising money for charity." - Wikipedia

Then I thought, women today are so NOT that anymore.  We've risen above and are now so much more multifaceted and are proud of it.  So I took a very old school mentality of ladies who lunch and gave it a modern spin with Ladies Who Booze.  Where modern women still get together and meet other amazing women and discuss various topics of interest from fashion to business to relationships to food, what ever floats your boat, all over a cocktail or a diet coke (no you don't need to booze to be part of this).  I want to feature the amazing women I know in my life as well as go forth and meet new ones!  We all have something to offer each other.  True we have our friends but sometimes they might not understand one aspect of who you are.  Wouldn't it be great to be able to reach out and find someone who gets it?  We at Ladies Who Booze want more women to help other women become a better version of themselves through love and support or even if it's just someone to have a glass of wine with and vent with.  This new adventure of ours is still in the baby stage where we are trying to get a better handle of what we want to do, the goals we want to accomplish, and how to go about it.  Buuuuuuuut I wanted to let you all know that this is happening.  

I want to break down the walls ladies sometimes build up to protect themselves from other ladies.  We should not be so catty and so judgy and soooo un-supportive of each other.  Let's raise each other up because we understand each other, sometimes much better than any of the men in our lives.  You should feel safe in your skin and also AMAZING, because you are.  And your ladies are behind you to tell you so!  If you don't get it, just listen to Beyonce's song Flawless.  Though I'm sure no one wakes up like Beyonce does, we still are flawless in our own right.  And no this is not a we want to crush the boys club though we may complain about them here and there.  This is empowering women in their own way and creating a network of all types of ladies!  We are powerful and together we can make powerful changes.  Which brings me to my favorite quote:

"There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women." - Madeleine Albright

And speaking of feeling powerful, every lady needs a pair of powerful pumps!  Like that transition I did right there?  Hehehe... I recently and FINALLY was able to get my hands on the So Kate shoes by Christian Louboutin in my size.  I have ridiculous baby sized feet so I had to wait around until my size was available again.  When that phone call came in from the New York Madison store... woosh... out came the credit card and it was a done deal.  They came in and gatddamn they hurt.  Shocking?  Hell no.  You don't buy a pair of Loubies because they make you feel like you are walking on clouds.  You buy them because it makes your feet look hot like sex and that feeling radiates all over you making you feel like the hottest mctottie that ever totted.  Even though you may look like Bambi trying to walk for the first time, the "just standing" version of you is WERKING that shit!  Wearing these shoes instantly give me a little boost in confidence in a way my lady friends totally understand.  I know some of you are saying, why would buy love shoes that are so painful to even walk in.  Valid question.  Here's my answer, scroll down to the second to last picture in this post and I dare you not to feel some sort of tingle.  Feel that little wave of "ooOoOOoh" before you get to the "ouch that looks painful" scowl?  You know you felt it.  Be honest.  Wearing a pair of what I call "power pumps" can transform how a gal can feel about herself.  It doesn't have to be a Louboutin, but something about a stiletto heel and being that much closer to the sky.... sigh... you just feel more bad ass, like you could accomplish anything.  Like you are going to turn heads, and people will take notice.  Maybe it's all some fantasy in my mind, but at some level that's what matters right?  What I think of me?  And with heels like the So Kate, I think me is AWESOME SAUCE!

... now where did I stash those flats...

Jacket - Rick Owens  |  Sleeveless Trench - All Saints  |  Faux Leather Leggings - Aritzia  |  Shoes - Christian Louboutin So Kate  |  Bag - Givenchy Antigona Small  |  Sunnies - Anna Karin Karlssen

Please follow Ladies Who Booze on Twitter @ladieswhobooze, Instagram @ladieswhobooze, and Facebook @ladieswhobooze.  Website coming soon!  We thank you for your love and support in these early stages!

xoxo,

DOS

PARKING LOT

Quickie outfit post for y'all highlighting a couple things I am obsessed with currently.  Number 1.  The Elliot pant from Aritzia.  I love how they can go from work wear to casual wear.  Not to mention I don't have to hem them!  Wheeeeeeeeee.  I am sure they are meant to cut off higher up on the ankle for a definitive cropped look so for me they come out to be more like grazers.  But whatevs!  I love love them.  So comfy and cradles my bedonkydonk so nicely.  The fabric stretches and moves with you but still retains its shape at the end of the day.  I want every color!  I really hope they come out with a white one soon!  Number 2.  Janessa Leone hats!  What better way to hide your roots when they start getting a little cray!  I got my first JL hat in San Fran and instantly fell in love with the whole line.  This is my second one and I plan to add more to the arsenal.  Thank goodness my local boutique Roam carries these babies!  Although this day was probably not the best day to wear it.  It was so windy and I had to keep a hand on my head to keep it from blowing away.  You will definitely be seeing me in this hat and more Janessa Leones this spring/summer.  Number 3.  My Libby Lane clutch!  I love this simple design and the leather is stiff and thick which gives this clutch its appeal and sexy edges.  The leather is also so smooth and really fun to pet and stroke.  Mk that's pretty much it.  Gotta get back to work.  Huggies and Kissies!

Jacket - AllSaints  |  Top - ASOS  |  Pants - Aritzia  |  Shoes - Christian Louboutin  |  Hat - Janessa Leone  |  Clutch - Libby Lane  |  Necklace - Tiffany and Co.

xoxo,

DOS

TURTLENECKING

I feel like I keep apologizing for the lack of posts.  So I'm gunna stop saying sorry because it's just starting to sound fake.  LOL.  The fact of the matter is, I have a corporate job and it's not an easy one and lately it's taking up most of my time.   The tax field is volatile in that you always have to keep up to date to legislative changes and there will never really be a time where there isn't any work that needs to be done.  It's more like, can I push this off knowing I'm only screwing myself over next week?  Add to that the pressure of wanting to transition to the next step of my career.  If I want some sort of level up, then I have to prove I deserve it.  So the work and the responsibilities pile on.  Perceptions start to matter more and yes, I gotta really start to care about putting on my eyeliner, a tad bit of makeup in the morning, and actually brush my hair once in a while before I fly out the door.  Believe it or not, the polished chick you see on this blog, is more often NOT what my co-workers see.  Just think Clark Kent versus Superman.  Except that Clark Kent is a short Asian girl who looks like she just rolled out of bed, with her hair whipped up into some sort of ponytail/bun combination with pieces sticking out every which way, wearing just different variations of a sweater and slacks combo with zero makeup and barely looking awake.  So what's got me caring about my career all of a sudden?  Who the hell knows.  

I swear you turn 30 and you start thinking about shit.  Like I should be aiming for higher things.  Though I don't have kids and don't plan to have any, so really my responsibilities are to not lose my house, feed my husband and my dog, there is a go-getter side of me that craves challenges.  Maybe that's why I think I can handle being a career woman chasing her next promotion, fashionista wanna-be blogger, once in a blue moon youtube-r, wedding coordinator, photographer, super wife, party gal... the list kind of just trails off.  And really I don't want to give any of it up.  I like to say that I am just in this corporate life because it pays my bills and fills my closet, but if I'm really honest, I love the challenge and the grind.  Not to mention I've got a Masters degree in Tax that I don't want to waste because one, it comes from a great school, and two, it was daaaaaaamn expensive (at least that's what my mom and dad always said).  I also enjoy being surrounded by intelligent people who can mentor me and guide me career wise.  My dad always told me, if YOU are the smartest person in the room, then you are in the wrong room.  Some people like to feel like they know more than anyone else because let's be honest, that feels good.  That room seems pretty nice when everyone thinks you are the best.  But I always try to keep those words in mind and try to go into the room where maybe I am the dumb one.  Because only then will I keep learning and growing.  Smart people are sexy as hell y'all.  

So even though I'm going through all these intense emo thoughts about where my life is going, I still want to keep this blog alive and strong and hopefully keep giving you guys your dose of DOS.  Whether it's through my rants of pure nonsense or through photos and style advice, I will still be around.  So thanks to everyone who still pops in once in a while and for those that actually READ this... you get ALL the virtual hugs and kisses!  Once my life settles and the weather along with it, I'll come correct with the posts and be more consistent.  =D   I love you guys!

Coat - Twelfth Street by Cynthia Vincent  |  Turtleneck - H&M  |  Jeans - Page Denim  |  Shoes - YSL  |  Bag - Chloe Marcie Large  |  Sunnies - Oliver Peoples

xoxo,

DOS